This time last year, I came across a new concept called the Law of Attraction from watching one of my favourite Youtubers. I can’t remember what attracted me to this video, but I remember at the time I was particularly keen to learn new habits and routines because I wasn’t truly happy with how I was living my life at that time. I had also been researching the effect and impact that positive routines can have. While I had a lot of things to be grateful for, and while nothing in particular was ‘wrong’, I had a sense that I could and should be doing more, or at least more positively.
I would describe myself as a naturally negative person and from looking at the people around me, I know the effect that negativity can have and that’s not what I want. Similarly, I also know the effect that positivity can have. If you’re interested, I have another blog called ‘How to Attract More Positivity in Your Life‘ where I talk about the importance of positivity and why we should all be active in incorporating more into our lives. I find it really easy to think negativly instantly, and I have to be super conscious in being aware of this and make sure that I view things positively, all the time. I want to make sure that I am thinking, saying and doing things which successful and positive people do, as well as ensuring I’m not saying and doing the things that negative people do. For example, negative people come up with a million excuses as to why they can’t or haven’t taken action and often, blame others which I think is utter garbage! So I watched this particular video, which in turn inspired a new interest in the Law of Attraction, which I now apply to the present day.
So what is the Law of Attraction? For those who are not sure, it is the belief that you have where the positive or negative thoughts you have, bring positive or negative experiences into your life. Thus, what you think, attracts what you get. Personally, I believe you firstly have to be open to the concept. I know one or two friends who really do believe in this and I also know others who don’t believe in it. Likewise, I know that there are people reading this now and are sceptical about this and probably won’t read much further, which is of course perfectly fine! I think it would completely depend on whether you think/believe in destiny and that your path is already set out for you, or whether you believe that you are in control of your life and you have the power to choose which path you will go down. Of course, neither are right nor wrong. I believe that it just depends which you truly believe in and only you can decide that.
For me, I choose to believe that I have the power to determine my own path and I know that this is true as a result of my own personal experiences. Perhaps I’ll talk about these more in a part II Law of Attraction blog. More recently, I have chosen to use the Law of Attraction to take action and control on things I was very unhappy with and because it worked, this inspired me to write this blog to share with you because I have proven that the Law of Attraction works and there’s absolutely no reason why it won’t work for you too, unless you don’t believe in it! So if you think about it, if you have already decided that it doesn’t work, it’s not going to work! Your thoughts determine the result and so of course, if you don’t believe in it, it’s not going to work for you, simple!
I have particularly been interested in listening to podcasts this year because one of my resolutions for the year was to learn and so listening to podcasts is one way for me to learn. For those who follow my Youtube channel Nayemma, you will have seen one of my latest videos where I share some of my favourite podcasts, talks and books that I have found particularly inspiring and motivating. Since that video, I’ve listened to podcasts and motivational talks almost every day, sometimes for the whole day! In particular, I was listening to the Mindset and Motivation podcast by Rob Dial. He was talking about his new 60 day transformational coaching, where he had listed several aspects and habits that people need to do every day for 60 days in order to become a ‘new and improved’ version. I didn’t want to pay for this and believed I could just do this myself because I’m stubborn. So I decided to do my own six-week intervention. Where I had an idea of some things I wanted to do/achieve by the end of the six weeks, and involved me having to be conscious of my daily decisions and actions in order to attract those goals.
Going back to the Law of Attraction, I feel that it has particularly emphasised the power of writing things down. When you write things down, such as a goal, you have been specific in what goal you want and therefore your attention focuses on it, bringing clarity. But you need to understand that you can’t just write any old random goal down. It has to be something that you truly want! Let’s look at one of my personal examples as to how this really worked for me during my six-week intervention.
The 24th July was day one of my personal intervention. One of the things that I had written down was that by the end of the six weeks, I wanted to ‘be offered a new job’. Now, I was particularly careful in what I wrote. Notice how I didn’t write ‘get a new job’. I consciously chose to write ‘be offered a new job’ because it was important for me to ensure that the job offer itself was right for me. Therefore leaving it open to my final choice, as to whether I wanted to say yes or no to an offer. I had a quiet moment with myself and thought about the things I wanted from this ‘new job’ that didn’t exist yet. I knew I wanted more money, I knew I wanted it to have more responsibility and knew I wanted it to be something I was really interested in and ideally, still related to my specialty of either nutrition, sport or public health. 7 days later, I was listening to another Mindset and Motivation podcast, about taking action. It was essentially saying that you can listen and read all the most inspiring motivational talks and blogs in the world, but you will not achieve anything unless you decide to step up and take action, and so I did!
That morning I woke up and went to work like normal and by mid-morning I felt a rage inside of me that caused action that I did not expect to do when I woke up that morning. I handed in my notice that afternoon! While I won’t advise that you do the same, I personally knew that because I’m stubborn and determined, I’d be okay because I did have the option of asking for help from family if needed and that the week previous, I had written down on a piece of paper that, in now 5 weeks time, I’d be offered a new job and honestly, I really did believe it and so quite frankly I didn’t care much about the potential consequences because I believed that it would never come to it! I knew that by the end of that last week of my intervention, I’d have a new job.
That afternoon, I went home and found a job that brought such excitement, so much so that I shared it with at least 5, if not 10 people that I knew. It had my name written all over it and I knew I had to get it and by sharing it with others, it made it more realistic and almost more attainable. In one sense, they almost acted as my accountability partner, or in my case, accountability group. The deadline was several days later. So I spent the best part of three days applying for this job to the best of my ability, reading it over and over again. I very rarely ask for help, but I know about the importance of action and so I called up a company who didn’t offer me a job interview and asked for very specific feedback on my application. I ensured I applied the feedback to this current application.
Five days after the closing date and I received an email for an invitation for interview. I celebrated that and was actually slightly shocked that this was starting to become real; this made me believe even more! I had been applying for jobs on and off for the past 2 months and I did not get one invitation for interview. Yet suddenly, I had an invitation to interview and the only thing I had done differently was write down on a piece of paper that I wanted ‘to be offered a job by six-weeks time’.
Of course, just because you write something down doesn’t mean that you’ll get it without effort and hard work. So for the next 6 days, I studied. I studied the job and company inside out, I studied how to be good at an interview, I studied how to answer certain interview questions, I studied how to be more likeable in an interview, I sought help from a friend who gave me some interview question ideas (two of which were word-for-word identical to what I was actually asked on the day). I filled up 20 pages front and back with interview prep stuff. Not only that, I started to consciously change my attitude towards the job. For example, instead of being stressed and worried about the job interview, I started talking to people about it, saying things like ‘When I get this job‘, ‘I can’t wait to be a part of something great and have more money as well’. Notice how I purposefully chose to NOT say ‘what if‘. In fact, I believed so much that I was going to get this job because it was right for me and I was right for them, that I declined another job interview offer that I got the next day after an invitation for this job (which I applied for 2 months previous). Some people believe in having a plan B, I believe that having a plan B takes away from your preparation, motivation and focus for achieving plan A.
Finally, the interview day arrived and I kid you not, I had a very stern word with myself in the mirror, even getting cross and pointing at myself! The same way as I would have spoken to a close friend. I told myself I was going to go into that interview with confidence in my ability and smash it. I had worked hard and had prepared well for it. It was my chance to make a significant improvement and difference to my life and I wasn’t going to mess it up for myself by being nervous, anxious, scared or doubtful. I actually scared myself a little with my own pep talk!
I bet you can guess the outcome. That’s right, I got the job! Do you see the power of the Law of Attraction? What started as a simple goal on a piece of paper one evening, turned into a life-changing opportunity for me. From the day I wrote on that piece of paper, to the day I got offered the job, was 25 days and it was 18 days between handing in my notice and getting another job. This just shows that change doesn’t come over night, but it does come eventually when you make the right moves, one small step at a time. As a result, I now work for an organisation who’s work and ethos I truly believe in and will allow me to contribute positively. I received a pay rise and I have to do less hours than my old job for it, meaning that I have more spare time in the mornings and evenings to do what I love also.
So this is my little story that I have for you today. This is just one of the many (10 or so) goals that I had written down on the piece of paper. This example is just one of the many reasons why I really do believe in the power of the Law of Attraction, and one of the reasons why I don’t believe in destiny. The power of the mind is real and therefore, so is the power of the thoughts that you and I have and the actions and results that come because of it. I have 10 days left of my intervention and I promise you, I’ll be doing another after!
“You’re not sentenced to life this way, you chose it”.
– Lisa Nichols
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